Saturday, June 30, 2012

My Thoughts of Today

Jess has been back for 10 days and we are so happy.  Usually I feel like I get the raw end of the deal when he is gone.  This time I'd say we were equal.  Yes, I had to pack, move, and rent out our town home by myself.  Jess however had to survive WOCS.  This included getting woken up at 4:30 in the morning for 5 weeks, running miles every day and completing timed assignments like ruck marching 6 miles up hill in 98 degree weather in under 90 minutes.  Seven people were hospitalized during the training and Jess only came home with some bruised toes.  I'm pretty proud of him.  What other 35 year old guy is doing this kind of stuff?

Our house is coming along really fast.  My dad thinks they might be ready a month early.  That is crazy to me but they have a crew of 8-10 guys there all the time.  I went to the design center without Jess so I am hoping he likes how it turns out. :)

Another thought: When did people stop teaching their children about manners?  Have you noticed that people just don't practice common courtesy anymore?  I'm not talking about my children's friends either (although not many have great manners either), I'm talking about adults.  Is it just me, or am I old fashioned when I tell my children they have to be invited before they can play at a friend's house?  It's bad enough when kids come over without being invited, but there are adults that call me and ask if their  kids can play at MY house.   Another thing I try to teach my kids is that they need to ASK for food if they are hungry.  I don't know how they behave at other's houses, but at mine they do ask before they open a refrigerator or pantry door.  We are far from perfect, but I remind them daily to say please and thank you and if they get lollypops at the bank, dang it, we don't leave until they tell the teller thank you.  Even at church if I pick up my kids from class they tell their teachers thank you.  What is really hard for me is that I see all the things we practice at home fly out the window when my kids are with friends that are not courteous.  Whatever their friend does is good enough for them.  Is it a lost cause?

On a less frustrating note, the Springville library has been awesome this summer.  We have gone to several programs and I thought they have done a fantastic job creating a really fun place for the kids.  Because of the great programs my kids now want a sugar glider and a milk snake for pets.   I told them maybe the sugar glider. :)

Building - Week 5

Monday, June 18, 2012

Newest Bike Rider

After about 4 days of tears for Sierra and some frustration for mom, Sierra is officially a bike rider.  She was so afraid of falling (which she never did because she is tall enough to touch the ground while sitting on her bike), that she wouldn't go fast enough or long enough to really get the feel of it.  She had a goal to get it down before Jess came home though so she could show him.  She was so proud of herself, in her sweet Sierra way.

Reanne needed some attention after all time I spent with Sierra encouraging and working with her.  So she decided that she needed to up her game on the bike.  She had me take this picture of her to show  Jess.

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

My love bank

I have been reading Covey's book, "The seven habits of highly effective people" and was reading about emotional banks.  I have heard the concept before...that we each have a bank in which people make emotional deposits or withdrawals.  People who give us a lot of deposits we really enjoy being around and trust and love.  The opposite is also true.  It made me think of my children and how I view each one.

I have two children who don't make many deposits in my bank.  I don't know if they make more withdrawals than other kids, but there isn't a lot of positive deposits either.  I tend to think of them as my kids I have to have a lot of patience with or the kids that I will one day have a better relationship with.  I have one however that constantly puts deposits into my emotional bank.  She cuddles and holds my hand when we walk places and tells me she loves me every day out of the blue.  The other day she told me, "Mom, I'll never forget you."  I asked, "What do you mean?"  "I'll never forget the way you treat me," she said.  It made me think.  I wonder if I treat her better or differently because she is always showing me love?  I am guessing I do.

It's a hard thing to balance as a parent I think.  How do you make every kid say "I'll never forget the way you treat me." when every kid is so different in their personalities and their maturity levels and the way they treat you?

Saturday, June 2, 2012