I have been reading Covey's book, "The seven habits of highly effective people" and was reading about emotional banks. I have heard the concept before...that we each have a bank in which people make emotional deposits or withdrawals. People who give us a lot of deposits we really enjoy being around and trust and love. The opposite is also true. It made me think of my children and how I view each one.
I have two children who don't make many deposits in my bank. I don't know if they make more withdrawals than other kids, but there isn't a lot of positive deposits either. I tend to think of them as my kids I have to have a lot of patience with or the kids that I will one day have a better relationship with. I have one however that constantly puts deposits into my emotional bank. She cuddles and holds my hand when we walk places and tells me she loves me every day out of the blue. The other day she told me, "Mom, I'll never forget you." I asked, "What do you mean?" "I'll never forget the way you treat me," she said. It made me think. I wonder if I treat her better or differently because she is always showing me love? I am guessing I do.
It's a hard thing to balance as a parent I think. How do you make every kid say "I'll never forget the way you treat me." when every kid is so different in their personalities and their maturity levels and the way they treat you?
2 days ago